Mencius’s child at the well, seen from a delivery room in Sylhet
I have been a midwife for nineteen years. Last month a friend lent me a translation of Mencius, and I stopped at the passage about the child at the well and read it three times.
Mencius says that anyone who suddenly sees a small child about to fall into a well will feel alarm and compassion. Not to get in good with the child's parents, not to be praised by neighbours, not because the crying is unpleasant. The feeling simply comes. He takes this as a sign that the heart of compassion is part of being human, the first sprout of goodness, along with sprouts of shame, deference and the sense of right and wrong.
I see a version of this every few weeks. When a newborn does not breathe, the room changes. Relatives who were quarrelling a minute ago about who should be allowed in go silent. A grandmother who has said nothing kind all night starts praying out loud for a child she was disappointed was a girl. Nobody calculates.
What I want to know is what this proves. My nephew, who studies biology, says it proves only that we evolved to care about infants, and that this tells you nothing about whether caring is right. Mencius seems to think it shows morality belongs to our nature and is not a convention someone made up.
I also notice the feeling does not last. The same grandmother may be cold to the mother by morning. Is a feeling that comes and goes really evidence of anything about right and wrong? I would be glad to hear how people read this passage.