Preferred indifferents: a real distinction, or having your health and despising it too?
I volunteer on a palliative-care unit and my own sympathies are Epicurean, so I come to this a little sceptical.
The Stoics say virtue is the only good. Health, wealth, reputation, even life itself, are "indifferent": neither good nor bad. But then, apparently, some indifferents are "preferred" (health, wealth) and some "dispreferred" (illness, poverty). It is rational to choose health over illness, but health still doesn't make your life any better.
On the unit I meet this every week in a softened form. Families tell me that what matters is that their father faced his illness with courage, and also that they want every possible treatment. That seems to me a perfectly human position. But I can't see how it's a coherent philosophical one.
So, can someone explain what the Stoics actually meant by preferred indifferents? Is there a real distinction between "worth choosing" and "good", or is it, as I suspect, a way of wanting health while saying you don't care about it?